Change means something different to everyone. Some hate it (me), and some find change exciting (I don’t understand these people). But the biggest lesson I’ve come to learn is that adapting to the change is one of the biggest strengths one can possess. I’ve not only tried learning to adapt, but to embrace it too.
I feel like one quote in particular appeals to me out of the dozens that relate to this topic: “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao Tzu
A great way to explain this is using the analogy of a river. A lot of the time I feel like I’m just swimming upstream and feel helpless when I resist the natural flow of how things are meant to be, especially when my idea of what is meant to be and what is are not the same. I feel like I’m working so hard to try change something when naturally I should just accept how it is and just go with it. Along with this river analogy is my take on adapting. The more water flows through a river bed, the more the river bed changes to accommodate the flow of water. Right? I’m no expert on this but I’m pretty sure this is how it would happen. In my experience, depth is what is needed in the river bed of change. If the river bed remains shallow, water would crash through violently. If the river bed adapted and created depth, water would calmly flow through and move on. Creating depth in oneself is what I’m getting at with this little river bed story. It isn’t only about adapting to that which changes around you, it’s also about the depth one can create to experience everything, good and bad, in order to grow from it.
This is what I want my river to look like. It’s pretty and natural and stuff.
In the end, what must be will be. I’ve accepted that I need to stop challenging the natural flow of life and rather just adapt. Sometimes I do so calmly. Other times a tantrum must be had first.
People, however, are difficult rivers for me to deal with. Especially when people just don’t see how cool your river of life is, and really they just want to ruin your flow because theirs is so different. I think that’s the next lesson to be learnt. Every person has their own depth, their own stream and flow, their own ways of living their lives. So the next way to adapt to my surroundings is learning to have my flow adapt to the flows of others. There is a caveat to this though, one cannot always be the one to accommodate others. Sometimes when I envision strangling someone who is ruining my flow, I wish they would understand this. But alas, ignorance and intolerance is another topic for another post. (Does me wanting to strangle someone make me just as ignorant and intolerant? Ha.)
For now though, I can really just focus on my little river and creating my own depth so that life flows smoothly. And in general just go along with the natural flow of it. Hopefully other rivers can learn to go with my flow, and I can learn too.